jht - 034 has 3 different ones one is round thats out but do we need the 3-4 wire or the 5-6 wire do you know?
this one Connector, Boot, Rubber 3 and 4 wire Connector - 034Motorsport | Performance Parts for Audi, Porsche, and Volkswagen
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this one Connector, Boot, Rubber, 5 and 6 Wire - 034Motorsport | Performance Parts for Audi, Porsche, and Volkswagen
also i was told no go on the bmw one but who knows.
So I see that BMW failed as well
Goodness me who would've thought.
If I were inclined to get one of the items you list above it would be the 5-6 wire unit.
It's only there to support the wiring as it loops over and doubles back to take the sharp bend and stresses away from the base of the male plug as it runs back down the fork.