Veck,
This sounds very much the same as my experience. I also added 20cc fork oil to stop the bottoming. So I am running 35mm sag, with the forks also dropped 5mm down, and a softer setup than I would usually run on the other bikes. I tried softer springs to make it easier to load the front, but that didn't work really. So went back to a 10.0. I have the compression fairly high already to keep the bike stable, and it is already slightly harsh so agree with your comment. The electronic damping on these bikes is mainly only slow speed comp anyway, as it's a simple needle valve moved by a stepper. It does little to high speed damping.
Throttle pickup with the new map from Ducati is much improved over the old one, which was dreadful, but it's still not that consistent. I too would much prefer to be back on 195Hi, but you still have snatchy throttle response with that, and so certainly on the street, it isn't rideable like that. And first touch of the throttle, when you have it banked over, as you say, isn't the time for the bike to start getting all excited.
I haven't tried the gearing change yet, as not sure that is going to make that much difference to these issues. I might try dropping the rear a little more, or changing the shock length. That's what one of the race teams here has done, as they had the shock all the way to the bottom if it's adjustment range, so shortened the actual shock body to a shorter shock.
See how you get on this week. I think I would be able to ride mine better on track than road, but it isn't quite right. I am riding around the issues rather than the bike flattering the rider that's for sure. In a straight line it's quick as you like though......